California Marriage Counseling Online
Lovewell providers provide virtual marriage counseling to couples at any stage of their relationship. From premarital counseling and coaching to parenting support to separation and divorce, our therapists can help. Our trained therapists provide marriage counseling online. We have found online and virtual therapy to be as effective as in-person counseling, while allowing more flexibility for our clients. Because licensure is by state, our therapist can only currently provide marriage counseling to residents of California and Florida.
While many couples may wait until there is a serious problem to seek marriage counseling and couples therapy, marriage counseling services are extremely helpful for general support and maintenance of a relationship, as well as building a healthy relationship foundation. Some of the most common reasons people seek out some of our marriage counselors and get marriage counseling are:
- The feeling in one or both partners that the couple has grown apart
- Lack of connection and intimacy
- Feeling like “roommates” rather than romantic partners
- Desire for harmoy, deeper intimacy, and understanding
- Conflicts or differences concerning money, including different spending habits, styles, or priorities
- Different parenting styles and perspectives
- Arguments where one or both partners throw hurtful comments and insults at each other
- Erectile Dysfunction
- Avoidance of conflict and a sense of disconnection
- Life transitions, i.e. illness in the family or couple, caring for aging parents, death of a loved one, children graduating
- Lackluster sex life
- Wanting to avoid divorce or have an amicable divorce
- Deciding whether to stay together or separate
- Navigating separation
Small fights and issues can lead to bigger divides and disagreements, as well as to cyclical patterns of fighting that feel familiar even though the topics may change. If these small fights and issues are addressed immediately through marriage coaching, both partners learn skills to resolve conflicts in a healthy way and the conflicts tend to become less frequent and problematic over time. On the other hand, if conflicts are left unaddressed, they snowball into bigger patterns and arguments.
As mentioned above, some couples may not have these fully developed patterns when initiating therapy, but may come to online marriage counseling preventatively to build a healthy foundation before their marriage even starts. Lovewell clinicians have worked with couples who are just beginning to date, through the structured premarital counseling stage, and all the way into their marriage. These couples tend to develop healthy communication patterns from the beginning - due to their willingness to learn, grow, and stay open, as well as to the skills, tools, and techniques they gain in marriage counseling.
In marriage counseling, you will learn these types of skills, techniques, and tools that will address and prevent dysfunctional patterns, such as:
- Conflict resolution skills
- Mindful and non-violent communication skills
- Active listening
- Emotional regulation
- Nervous system regulation
- Somatic (body) awareness
- Intimacy building
- Bids for affection and intimacy
While these are a few of the skills you can expect, each couple has different needs. Our treatment plans and the skills you learn will be tailored to your unique relationship needs.
Many of the couples that come to see our clinicians at Lovewell are successful professionals with a growth mindset and high standards looking to improve and optimize their relationship. They may have issues with communication centering on anything from differences in risk-tolerance surrounding COVID-related behaviors to differences in parenting styles to simple misunderstandings and resentments about everything from household chores to communication styles. The common denominator is that they are committed to working on their relationship and optimizing their relationship wellbeing.
Some couples may fight openly and frequently, while others may rarely fight and tend to avoid conflict and confrontation, but one or both partner’s feel that having an outside perspective could help them cultivate deeper intimacy or something that’s currently missing in the relationship.
Our clinicians understand the work it takes to make a relationship successful and can guide you on that path. We take pride in what we do, and can help carve a path to greater harmony, understanding, and intimacy in your relationship through embracing strengths, teaching tools, cultivating listening, empathy, mindfulness, and compassion.