Love Yourself to Love "The One"
Take stock of what’s in your heart.
In a journal or on a piece of paper, answer the following questions:
• What is true for you?
• What do you love and value?
• Is your heart in the work you are doing?
• Is your heart in the right place?
• Are you living a life that you love?
There are no wrong answers. This is simply a practice to get more in touch with what’s in your heart and to become aware of who you are and what you have to give.
Make a list: “Things That Delight Me.”
This morning I found a list I’d written awhile ago entitled “Things That Delight Me.” With each item on the list, I found my heart opening and a smile bubbling up to my lips. I realized how true the adage is that “what we put our attention on grows.” I’ll include mine at the end, just because doing so would delight me.
Do the things on your list.
As one of my favorite people and teachers, Elena Panova, recently said to a classmate in her great/adorable/amazing Russian accent: “I can help you, but I cannot do all the thing.”
Being in relationship is not about finding another to “do the thing.” It is about sharing yourself with another. When you share yourself, you must do the things that make you who you are.
Love starts with you. Take stock, make a list, and “do all the thing.” This Valentine’s Day with the help of san francisco therapy, cultivate love and see what happens when you shift the focus to yourself.
Things that delight me…
Working from my bed on a raining morning
When a horse walks directly up to me
Talking with little kids about their perspective on life.
Playing games with kids
Learning about people who think so differently than I do–i.e. men, from the source
Losing track of time
Making chocolates, cupcakes, and other cute desserts
Making treats for gatherings and surprising the group with them
The perfectly timed glass of wine.
Reading a good book
Frequently Asked Questions
Q. What does practicing compassion mean?
Q. What are the benefits of mindful self compassion?
A. Mindful self-compassion is a form of self-care that is rooted in Buddhism. It can be a powerful antidote to the negative thoughts and feelings that can contribute to our unhappiness and suffering.
Q. How can practicing gratitude be helpful?
A. Gratitude is a state of appreciation for what we have. It is a way of honoring the good things that we have in our lives by acknowledging them and feeling grateful for them. Practicing gratitude can be helpful in many ways. It can help us to feel better about ourselves, it can help us to experience greater levels of joy and happiness, and it can even help us to improve our health.